I have this idea about the brain and how it works. When you are young, it is malleable, teachable. As you grow, it becomes fixed. What does that mean in a normal persons life? For me, this means that when I try something new (like learning to play guitar) if I don’t get it right away, that must mean that I am not “musical” and I need to put my efforts into something else. If my child tries something new and doesn’t get it right away, I tell them how important it is to keep trying and it the effort will grow their brain.
Why would effort be worthwhile as a child but not as an adult?
I reflected on this and realized some really important things about myself:
- I am unwilling to try something I think I will fail at
- I quit easily thinking “I must not be made for that”
- I am giving my children a horrible example (like a, do as I say not as I do, thing)
And the most important thing: I will never get any better if I don’t try.
I am going to fail. Failing is not fun. But I will learn from it.
My brain will grow from it.
When I try something new, I am going to try not to look at the immediate outcomes but remember that I am flexing a muscle. And in the case of learning guitar, a muscle that has rarely been used.
See, my brain is malleable! It’s growing already!
Fear of failure has paralyzed me for long enough. I have many projects just sitting in my brain because I know that there is a high chance that I will fail.
But if I don’t start, I will never grow.
So, I am going to start. I am going to blog, I am going to write Math lessons, I am going to learn guitar. I might utterly fail at all of these. But this time next year, my brain will be different. It will be stronger. And who knows, maybe failing is exactly what I need to do the next big thing.
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